Holidays often bring out some of the best - and worst - in family members. This post will explore some triggers that often lead to a call to our office, and how to successfully navigate such triggers.
Unpleasant words: it’s often our families that have the unique ability to most get under our skin. One reason for this is that family often knows us best, sometimes for our entire lives, as they likely often enjoy reminding us. Bear in mind, however, that you have the ability to gently but firmly steer the conversation out of treacherous waters. The moment the topic of conversation begins to tip toward a direction that you know will make at least one person unhappy, look to happily, but firmly speak up to change the subject. Consider using this moment to raise a toast, or pass along another plate of delicious food, or ask a question or make a statement that has nothing to do with the topic that was just raised.
Asking someone to leave or being asked to leave: If the event is happening in your home, please call the police. You should not be forced to leave your own home, particularly if you did something wrong. If someone is behaving so badly that, in your estimation, they need to be asked to leave, please consider calling the police as well. The quicker tension is settled, the better for everyone, and a police record may be helpful for the future, particularly if you may want to bring a family law action against one or more people based on what occurred that day.
Physical violence: If a physical altercation breaks out, please call the police as well. Consider taking a video of the altercation if it is safe to do so. Please take photos of the aftermath, including any evidence of bruises, visible injuries, etc. as these may be very helpful as evidence if you would want to later bring a family law action.
You are in control. You do not and should not have to experience or put up with any of the above actions. If something has occurred and you would like to speak, we would be happy to offer a free consultation to discuss next steps.